We were having dinner at a restaurant not too long ago. Might have been after one of my myriad exams... or before. I can't remember properly either way.
What I DO remember is that a very short while into dinner, even before finishing his glass of red wine, my father let out a somewhat uncharacteristic burst of laughter. From that mischievous glint that he gets in his eyes every now and then, I knew he had a story to tell.
The exact words elude me, obviously, but the gist of it is this.
"There is a man in my office, one of my colleagues. Mr. AssWhite. (I forget his name... and you'll try to excuse me) He used to come and talk to me, and gloat."
"Why?" I asked.
"He was very proud of his family, himself, his wife, and his daughters. They are a Punjabi family."
"And?"
" He's very proud of his family, thinks they are very superior bunch... because they are all very beautiful..."
"(WTF?)" I cut in.
"... and all of them have incredibly white skin and it's so rare to have a family that has managed to maintain this in modern times."
The emotion I was feeling cannot represented by a WTF. I felt disgusted, and more than just a little.
I did not understand why my father would even communicate with a person like that.
Then again, sometimes you can't choose the company you get. At others you stay around to satisfy perverse curiosity.
Even stronger was the desire to know why a man such as this would choose to reveal this kind of blatant racism to a colleague. Many are closet racists, many are not proud of it. Even I might have a slight racist streak (Then again, am I not allowed to have my own standard of beauty? From my current one, the ratio of good looking people from various ethnicities is unequal, skewed even, does that not make me intrinsically racist-?)
In any case. That's not the point. When compared to Mr. AssWhite in terms of the bile that is prejudice, I'm practically as 'pure as the driven snow'.
So back to the main point. Why the hell would a racist show his true colours (heh)?
Did he think my father would appreciate it, because he has fair skin?
Man... talk about being 'skin deep'.
On to the second part of the story.
"So Mr. White has sent his eldest daughter to study abroad, so that she could interact and associate with more white people and return even whiter than she'd left, perfectly ripe for marriage."
Just great. I hope Mr. Ass isn't expecting my father to provide a white groom for daughter 2. (Ok I apologize, I know this thought is baseless, petty and unwarranted- and hopelessly narcissistic. But it was one of the many that cycled through my head and I might as well note it down to remember it.)
"Except the daughter's seems to have gotten married already...
... To a Nigger."
"That's racist, Dad."
"So is the father."
Hm. Then came my slightly delayed snort of derision coupled with a hoarse laugh.
"So has Mr. Asswhite put a sock in the racist trash talk these days?"
"Not exactly. He's disowned his daughter now, cut all contact and the like.."
...Wow... just wow, that is single-handedly the most pathetic thing I've heard for a long time.
And this is probably a senior government officer, probably the product of the upper echelons of India's education system.
I find it funny that this country once supported the fight against apartheid in South Africa, when so many people within it are so deeply entrenched in a system tirelessly dividing society along lines of caste, creed, colour... these bloody racist Indians.
7 comments:
i understand and agree with your view thhat majority of indians are racist...
but not all.
also dont confuse racism\discrimination with classifying groups of people with a nuetral outlook. afterall, you call red red, n blue blue. dats not discrimination.
things get complicated with u become biased to any particular group.
* when not with
So how do you propose we indulge in classification with a neutral outlook-
The GEN/SC/ST/OBC system that the government uses?
As I see it, classifying people before you know them will always turn negative, even without intending to.
humans will always have an opinion. a thinking brain will always voice opinions.. and when i was talking of classifying i did not mean like gn..obc etc... dat i think is crap.
there isnt nething wrong about judging ppl... but u should not favour ne particaular judgement. a coloured beahviour towards ne person based on ur opinion of him without any actual proof could be harmful and is ethically not right also.
what i am saying is dat avoid a coloured beahviour... be nuetral towards that person and keeps d doors of change of opinion open for him or her as u kno him or her better.
thus... be netral. dont like or hate nething... just because u have formed an opinion about it
Its hard to classify people and then try to avoid negative connotations... but classifications are a fact of life... people like to have classifications... and in general, everyone is more likely to notice negative traits in people from classes other than their own and then apply them to the entire class... for example... Some people consider Punjabis or 'Surds' as they refer to them to be dumb... etc etc... whereas the Punjabis... well.. you have first hand experience of that...
I guess I am just rambling... but I for one don't judge people on basis of color/creed/religion whatever...
(Although I will admit I have some prejudice against all people in the Arts and Business Majors.... and the so called Industrial 'Engineers'... but does that really count??)
Whats wrong with Industrial Engineers?
They are just Mech guys with fewer cool courses and more insubstantial ones...
Clarification-
In India, industrial engineers are basically mechanical engineers... looks like they've become something else entirely in the US.
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